Sunday, May 27, 2012

The Birdcage

This post is brought to you by my Lifespan Psychology class. The assignment was to watch a movie and relate it to the themes we had been studying in class. When I saw that The Birdcage was on the list I of course picked it. I love that movie! Albert is just hilarious, so of course I chose to focus on him for my paper. I am posting the entire paper below, I hope that you enjoy it!








            Albert is an older man who is having anxiety over his many roles in his life and his satisfaction with his life. His partner Armand owns a club where Albert is the headlining act (as a female impersonator named Starina. Albert struggles with being the star of the show, becoming hysterical in the opening scene insisting that he is too old and fat to go onstage and perform. When Armand arrives to calm Albert/Starina down Albert begins acting worse until Armand threatens to send someone else onstage. Albert calms down, but argues with Armand accusing him of cheating, and demands a palimony agreement so that he isn’t left with nothing if Armand dies or leaves him.
            Starina (Albert) finally goes onstage and we meet Albert and Armand’s son Val. Val seems closer to Armand, and has arrived to inform him of his upcoming marriage. Later Albert rushes to the apartment above the club he shares with Armand and hopes to catch him cheating, and seems disappointed that he doesn’t. Armand informs Albert of their son’s upcoming marriage, and Albert becomes hysterical.
            We see Albert in the role of a parent the next morning as he tells Val that he is too young to be married and asks him to wait. Albert is more of the “mother” figure to Armand as the father, and Val seems to dismiss everything Albert says. We see Albert’s love for his son as he looks through a baby book later sobbing over the fact that his son has grown up.
            Val’s fiancé Barbara Keely comes from a conservative family and their daughter marring the son of a gay couple would not be agreeable to them so she lies to them about Val’s family. Barbara has lied to her parents even to the point of telling them the wrong last name to hide the fact that her fiancé comes from a Jewish family. She changes their last name from Goldman to Coleman. Barbara’s father is a Senator in the middle of a scandal, and they decide to avoid the press by visiting Val’s family.
            Val asks his father Armand to hide the fact that he is gay and convince Albert to go away for the weekend so that he can impress his fiancé’s family the Keelys. Albert agrees but shows Val his disappointment of him for asking this of his family.
            Armand attempts to manipulate Albert into leaving town but his attempts end up making Albert distrustful, and feel like Armand doesn’t want him around. When Armand finally explains the situation Albert is very upset and hurt by the fact that he is being excluded and from this important event in his son’s life. Armand feels bad about excluding Albert and attempts to teach him to be manlier so they can try to pass him off as an uncle to the Keely family. Albert loves Val immensely and wants this to go well and agrees to leave town, but Armand changes his mind and tells Albert he can stay.
            Val’s next request causes even more pain to Albert. Val asks his father to convince his biological mother to join them for dinner. Val feels like Albert is obviously gay, and that Armand would look less gay if he had a mother figure to introduce to the Keely family. Armand goes to visit Katherine, Val’s biological mother, and she agrees, but Albert becomes upset and feels that Armand was flirting with Katherine.
            Albert has been hurt many times by this point, and doesn’t feel like he belongs in his own home or family anymore due to all of the expected changes to please the Keely family. Albert has reached his breaking point and attempts to leave Armand, feeling everyone would just be better off without him. Albert has been arguing with Armand during key points in the movie, demanding that he be given a palimony agreement by Armand. Without this agreement he feels vulnerable, and Albert feels that this agreement would prove that Armand loves and trusts him. When Albert threatens to leave and seems serious about doing so, Armand finally produces the agreement for Albert.
            To me is seemed like Armand was saving this agreement for the moment when Albert’s antics reached a serious point. Throughout the film Albert was constantly trying to get Armand to show him his love, or prove it in some way. Albert constantly fought to have all attention on him, and have people fawning over him, but his true goal seemed to be to get this from Armand.
            Albert is very pleased when he receives the palimony agreement, because it is more than expected, instead of the property and the club being half his and going to him fully after Armand’s death, the property and club belongs solely to Albert, proving that all along Armand has cared about him in a way he hadn’t seen.
            Albert becomes upset again upon returning home and discovering that Katherine is still coming to dinner and he hides in his bedroom. The Keelys arrive and things are very tense. Armand is struggling to act straight and lie to the Keely family. Katherine is late, and things are just not going well.
            Albert arrives to save the day when he shows up dressed as a woman and introduces himself as Val’s mother. The Keely family loves Albert and accepts them. Eventually the Keely family discovers the lies. Albert is again shown his worth to someone as Val stands up and identifies Albert as his real mother over Katherine. The Keely family is upset but when they attempt to leave, they discover that the press has tracked them down. They escape the press by dressing up as female impersonators and escaping with the crowd from the club at the end of the night. This seems to bond them with the Goldman family and they accept their daughter’s relationship and upcoming marriage.
            Albert seems to be struggling with life satisfaction and role strain. Albert has many roles to fill in his life that of mother, wife, star and meeting his own needs. He has reached an age where he is reflecting on his life and deciding whether it has lived up to his expectations.
Albert is having a hard time finding his place and balancing the roles of being the wife figure, mother figure, and stage star at the club. He constantly seeks validation from everyone around him, constantly resorting to manipulation and hysterics to make everyone prove their need for him. He doesn’t feel important so he makes everyone around him show how important he is to them. This movie shows Val ignore Albert in his role as a mother several times, and dismiss his worth and even demand that Albert be sent away during this very important time in his son’s life. If Val is so willing to do this during an important point in his life it wouldn’t be that much of a stretch for the viewer to believe that Albert has valid concerns over his worth in his family’s life.
            I believe in the end of the movie Albert has shown his worth to his family, and they in turn have shown Albert how much he means to them as well. The movie ends on a good note with Albert firmly in place as the Mother of the groom sobbing in the pew as his son gets married. Val’s biological mother is at the wedding too, but not sitting with the rest of Val’s family, showing that Albert is his rightful mother.
            Albert began the movie reflecting on where he was in his life. He was due to go onstage and be the star of the show for Armand, but he is upset and worried about his ability to perform perfectly for Armand, and worried that he has become too old and too fat to carry the show. No attempts to tell Albert otherwise are successful. Only when Armand stops feeding into the hysterics and threatens to replace Albert does he finally get angry and decide to prove that he is the only one who can do it. Albert feels like his life hasn’t turned out the way he wanted because he feels like he has been standing by as the wife while Armand built a successful club and that none of that belongs to him. He wants validation in his life.
            He eventually gets the validation he needs when Armand confesses that the club has always been in his name and that his club and his life would be nothing if Albert wasn’t a part of it. Later in the movie after many sleights by him, Val finally stands up and declares that Albert is his real mother, and he is proud of that. These events finally give Albert the validation that he needs to know that he has a satisfactory life. 



Thanks for reading!
~Kel

Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Reviews!

I don't wear makeup very often, but for some reason I love to buy it! I check the make-up section every time I go into the store to see what is new, fun and pretty! Lately the trend in makeup seems to be long lasting make-up so I have tried a couple of these products out, and today I will be telling you all about it! There are also a couple of other gimicky things that have sucked me in, and I'll review those too! I'll probably even steal some photos from their website to illustrate my thoughts!

Here we go!


Revlon "Just Bitten" lip stain:
I mainly bought this because I was getting married. Alex always tries to dodge my kisses when I am wearing lipstick because he doesn't want to wear it too. So I knew that the next time I saw this in the store I would be purchasing it for my wedding day at least. I actually love this stuff! I throw some on in the morning, and get a little surprise later when I look in the mirror because I've forgotten that I put it on. I have a red color and a pinkish color. I honestly can't tell much difference between the two. The color lasts 3-4 hours. One end is like a marker you color your lips with, and the other end is like a clear gloss. I usually use sparkly lip gloss with it, cause I like to sparkle! LOL



Rimmel London Stay Glossy lip gloss:




I bought this in "Stay My Rose." The giant poster in the store promised it would last (up to) six hours! I had high hopes. When I put it on I was excited about the gloss wand, it picked up a lot more gloss than other glosses that I have. I applied it before my psychology class. I figured I wouldn't be eating or drinking or doing much talking so it seemed like a great time to test it out. With minimal mouth contact and movement the gloss lasted about 45 minutes to an hour. I was not impressed with this at all. It wasn't worth the added cost.


L'oreal One sweep eye shadow:



I bought this on my wedding day because I didn't have a lot of time, but I wanted pretty eye shadow. It has three colors of shadow, and a giant eye sized applicator. Honestly when I saw it in the store, I laughed and made fun of it. I officially apologize for that. It worked really well. When you follow the directions it does apply in the stripes, and it takes a minimal amount of blending to make it look professional. My only complaint is that like most eye shadow, it only lasted a couple of hours and settled into my crease quite quickly. Which brings me to my next review!

L'oreal Infallible 24 hour eye shadow:

I bought this one specifically to see if it did what it promised. I bought a purple color. Here is the evidence:



This is what it looked like a day and a half after I applied it. I love this stuff! It didn't settle into the creases or smudge up around my eyes and make me look like a crazed raccoon. I even went out and bought another color after trying this one out!

So those are my opinions of these products. As a little disclaimer, you should know that I used my own money to buy these things, and no one gave me them for free or told me what to say about them.

Thanks for reading!
~Kelli

Sunday, March 18, 2012

My wedding.


Pull up a chair, and I'll share the story of my whirlwind wedding.

Alex and I had decided we were going to get married on June 6th. It was never going to be a big wedding. The plan was always going to be a small wedding with only our attendants, and maybe the children and our parents. We were going to save our money for the party after.

So on or around February 19-20 I said to Alex half-joking "Wouldn't it be cool to get married on leap day?" He was against the idea. He wanted to wait for June 6th, like we had planned and there was no changing his mind.

So early afternoon on February 28th, I made a joke about it again, and Alex got really excited about the idea, like it was the first time he had heard anything about it! I thought about kicking him, but decided to marry him instead.

After that it was a whirlwind of activity. We decided right away to have a minimum amount of people there. The first plan was to just have us and the person officiating. I texted a friend to ask if she was still ordained, and she was. So I explained the plan and asked her to help. She was on board and completely excited to help. She reminded me for the need for witnesses, and so she and I agreed that her husband and our mutual friend Elizabeth could join us.

So then I started thinking about my hair and the fact that there would be pictures, so I decided to include my friend Sarah, so she could do my hair, also because she's my best friend. Unfortunately she couldn't come.

The day of the wedding, Alex and I had a lot to do. The first thing we did was get our marriage license. After we got the license we both started talking about how our mothers were going to kill us, so we decided at that point to invite them. I called both of them, but was unable to get in touch with mine. I kept trying throughout the day but ended up not talking to her until it was too late for her to come.

Alex also wanted to stop by and invite his good friend Tabby, so we did that.

We ran all over town, getting Alex a haircut, me shoes, flowers, and a veil, and a basket for our flower girl Stormy.

I decided it would be a bad idea to pull each of the kids out of school for the wedding since it was so last minute, but Stormy only goes to school half the day, so we decided to make her the flower girl.

The wedding was beautiful. It was unusual weather for February, it was in the 60s, but very windy.

We went to a bridge over Sugar Creek, and were married there. Alex and I read our own vows, I promised not to run off to Mexico and ditch him with all of our children, and he promised to stay by my side, even during the zombie apocalypse. We exchanged rings, and kissed each other.

I couldn't have planned a more perfect day even if I had months to plan it.

After the wedding I began to call people, and tell them about how I was now a married woman, and a lot of friends and family were pretty upset that they weren't included.

I am happy now that I am finally married. :)

Thanks for reading!
~Kelli

Friday, January 6, 2012

Catching up, and making stuff

I know, I know. So much for trying to post more often, it's been like a month! Terrible of me. I'll try to do better. So why don't we do a quick review of the last month?

I got engaged!


Christmas happened.


I made Earrings. 


New Years happened.


I made a necklace.


And Sidney and I became obsessed with a giraffe.


I think that catches us all back up. 

Today I decided since I was so successful at my liquid soap making venture I would try yet another thing I learned about while stalking  browsing Pinterest. 

I made my own powdered laundry detergent! I found the instructions on this blog. I followed the instructions as directed. Morgan, Alex and I took turns grating the soap because that's a tedious process. The first load of laundry is in the washer now, so I'll be sure to let you know how it turns out. But I spent a total of $11.64 on supplies, except the Oxyclean which I already had at home, and that is an optional ingredient anyway. I added it up earlier and we spend about $30-$40 a month on laundry soap. So I'll report in on how long the soap I made lasted, how well it worked, and the total amount of money it saved when I run out. 

I'm about to start a new jewelry project. Sort of a charm bracelet for myself. I can't wait to see how it turns out! 

Thanks for reading! 

Kelli




Friday, December 9, 2011

Creativity!

I've been obsessed with Pinterest lately. There are so many links to crafts and stuff I want to try!

Alex got me a bunch of jewelry making supplies for the holiday, and I talked him into giving them to me early. I've been so tired lately that I haven't had time to play, but I have high hopes for the weekend. Especially since I've decided what I'm making every one for gifts this year. I'm sort of running out of time.

One of the things I found on Pinterest that I have tried is a recipe to turn a bar of soap into a ton of liquid soap. Since I have 7 children soap is an issue. We have to buy it by the gallon and it doesn't last long. So spending less than a dollar to make 10 cups of liquid soap is a great deal for us!

The recipe I used was from this blog. I already had liquid glycerin in my cabinet of soap making supplies, so I didn't have to buy that. I got it at Hobby Lobby but rumor has it you can get it at any pharmacy, you just have to ask for it. So all I had to buy was a bar of soap. So I spent less than a dollar.

I hope everyone has a great weekend, hopefully I'll have some more to say to you before the weekend is over!

Thanks for reading!
Kelli

Saturday, November 26, 2011

Sleep deprivation!

So I thought I would stop in and tell you about my holiday weekend, so far. It's been an exercise in patience. I don't think I've been this sleep deprived since the triplets came home from the hospital. I woke up Thursday morning at around 9, and got the kids dressed and ready to go to my dad's house for Thanksgiving dinner. Things went surprisingly well with getting the children ready, they all found their socks and shoes with little to no effort. Maybe that should have worried me, because my van didn't start. We thought it might have been the battery but it quickly became clear that the issue was more than just a battery. Since the only other modes of transportation that we have between us is a small car and a scooter, obviously we had to call someone to help us get to our Thanksgiving destinations. I knew that I'd be up most of the night for Black Friday, so when we got home from the dinners we did manage to make it to at 4 pm, I went and attempted to take a nap. I didn't sleep well, but I did get a couple of hours of sleep. I made it to Wal-Mart at 10, where I finished shopping for Hannah and Sidney, and then went back home to try to catch a couple more hours of sleep before heading out to shop some more. That didn't work out. My friends arrived at around 1:45 am and put their kids to bed and we all left with Alex's mom to go shopping. There were five of us, Morgan, Thom, Sarah, Diana (Alex's mom), and me. Poor Alex didn't get much sleep after I left, because it seems the arrival of the other kids woke up my kids, and all of them had just enough sleep that they were fine being awake for the rest of the day. We got home from shopping at around noon, and other than a couple of cat naps throughout the day, I didn't really sleep. So I was more than ready to go to bed at 11 pm. Usually Sidney goes to sleep at 9 pm or so and sleeps through the night. So Of course on the night that I am beyond exhausted he wakes up for an extra feeding. I fed him, and put him back to bed and settled down for some much needed sleep. So I wasn't at all surprised when I heard a light tapping sound on my bedroom door followed by every parent's least favorite three words ever, "I threw up!" So I spent the next hour cleaning up that mess (Alex can't do it without adding to the mess so it falls on me). After cleaning up the mess I was afraid to go so sleep, so I ended up not getting to sleep until around 2 am. So in the past three days, I've had 10 hours of sleep. So I should be lots of fun tonight at my class reunion once I start drinking! LOL Thanks for reading! Kelli

Friday, November 18, 2011

A holiday rant...

Language warning!!!

There are a lot of things that piss me off about Facebook, but lately this is what pisses me off the most:


A status I've seen a lot recently:

I am sick and tired of every year when CHRISTMAS comes around, there are people who want to take CHRIST out of CHRISTMAS because it might offend someone. Well, how about all of the CHRISTIANS? What about offending us because you are taking our CHRIST out of CHRISTMAS!?!? CHRIST IS CHRISTMAS!!! If you aren't celebrating CHRIST then why are you celebrating? CHRISTMAS is about the birth of our SAVIOR! CHRISTMAS is one of a few holidays left that celebrate my CHRIST! Leave my holiday alone!!! And tell everyone MERRY CHRISTMAS, not Happy Holidays! 




So I thought I'd rant about this, because this is my blog and I can do whatever I want! 


I think the reason many people say "Happy Holidays" rather than "Merry Christmas" is because hmm... I don't know, maybe it's because IT'S NOT THE ONLY FUCKING HOLIDAY IN DECEMBER! 


How can someone be so arrogant that they feel personally insulted by the fact that not every store greeter, acquaintance, or random Facebook friend feels the need to exclude EVERYONE but you in their holiday greeting?! Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, and Winter Solstice are all December holidays. 


Just because it's not YOUR Holiday it doesn't matter? Bullshit. 


Christianity moved their holiday from another time to December to take the focus off of the pagan holidays. Do you see Pagans running around demanding that everyone only say "Happy Solstice!" or Jewish people demanding that everyone use the greeting "Happy Hanukkah!" Why is that? Because they aren't arrogant! 


Not to mention the fact that people generally start saying "Happy Holidays" around November. So that in case they get to busy, they cover all the major things like Thanksgiving, whatever winter holiday you desire, and New years. Why do they do that? BECAUSE CHRISTMAS ISN'T THE ONLY FUCKING HOLIDAY IN DECEMBER! 


I think that's all I have to say. Unless the comments section heats up. 


Thanks for reading, 


Kelli